In case you're not sure, this is the blog I'll be referring to.
For whatever reason, I'm not able to post a direct link, but I believe it was from a website called wanderonwards.com.
So, 15 reasons why this blog post is so sad.
1.) It's a sweeping generalization from a secular point of view. This means that the person who wrote this more than likely lacks Christian ideals and morals and probably wouldn't enjoy their idea of marriage.
2.) It's assumed that every young married couple "rushed into it" and will be turned into another divorce statistic.
3.) The writer insinuates that mom and dad don't approve of getting married young as shown in this comment: "'Why your mother really doesn't know what she's talking about.'"
4.) That at the age of 22, four years of being an adult, the writer has no idea who she is or what she's doing or who she'll be spending her life with. Let me clarify, you don't have to MEET the person your spending your life with to know what kind of person it's gonna be. Those are called standards, honey. Don't settle EVER and you will get the person you deserve and the one you'll be spending your life with. With the kind of confidence this person wrote with, you'd think they'd be saying, "I'm gonna be with someone who wants to travel the world with me!"
5.) This blog entirely insinuates that all fun is lost after marriage. The writer mentions she's in China and traveling. Guess what. I want to travel too, but I want to do it with my best friend. And I will. And I'll have a lot more fun than someone doing it by themselves.
6.) Making out with a stranger is something I'm supposed to do before I "settle down?" Ew. Have you heard of syphillis? Better yet, have you heard of sleaziness?
7.) The writer thinks that getting married is "settling down." LOL! It's anything but settling down. It's having fun, it's going crazy with the love of your life, it's moving three times in five months and it's awesome. Sorry you're missing out. (Or "not sorry" as your 15 year old sister would say.)
8.) I did cut my hair...I did so while I was married at the age of 18. Imagine that! How could I possiy have done such a FUN thing and been married at the same time?! Believe me, I miss my hair. Don't cut it.
9.) Okay, the writer promotes infidelity by suggesting you should date two people at once and see how long it takes to blow up in your face. What a fab idea, folks! Nothing is more fun than really showing yourself by hurting two people simultaneously! Talk about two birds, one stone! Yeah, maybe it's a good thing this person doesn't believe in young marriage.
10.) The writer thinks that the logic she's using is only relevant to single people. To quote the words of most of the annoying people of our generation, "YOLO." Yes, that's right, you only live once. So, don't wait! Seize the moment! If it's right, uplifting, and you're capable of it, DO IT. If that means you can married a month out of high school, heck to the yes. Do it.
11.) I also did #1...I got a passport. I used it for a little thing called my honeymoon. No regrets.
12.) Let's not forget that we should all explore a new religion before tying the knot! God forbid we stand firm in the beliefs we currently have. That would be considered steady! Who wants that?! That's right, readers, this particular writer has just made religion comparable to some kind of park or museum that should be "explored."
13.) #2 says to "find your 'thing.'" Found it! He's called the love of my life, as given to me by Christ Himself, I call him my husband. (And occasionally my "boo thang" but only when I want to be embarrassing.)
14.) One of my personal favorite things to do before I get married is "disappoint your parents." This writer considers this a reasonable goal. Needless to say I bet most people sharing the blog aren't parents.
15.) The writer encourages you to be selfish. Yes...I said encourages. Need I say more?
So, with that, here's my disclaimer...not everyone is meant to marry under the age of 23...not everyone is meant to even marry at all! But that being said, everyone is different. Respect the people around you and respect the fact maybe, JUST MAYBE, whatever is meant for you isn't exactly what's meant for everyone else. Don't be so stupid as to think that just because it's your opinion, it's correct. This is a circumstantial topic and this blogger represented it like it was ridiculous to consider any way other than what she was offering. Did I mention the fact that most people under the age of 23 aren't financially stable enough to travel the world? Maybe after combining an income with someone else, you'd be able to afford it, though. Just saying.
